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Tribute To Mary Melendez
[From September 10th through September 12th, the JZ:TOL weblog homepage will be dedicated to remembering Mary Melendez and her family. This tribute was originally posted as part of the 2,996: A Tribute to the Victims of 9/11 project in 2006.]
Many diamonds passed from this earth on the morning of September 11, 2001. When I signed up with "2,996: A Tribute to the Victims of 9/11" to be one of the bloggers assigned the task of honoring one of those precious gems chosen at random, I looked forward to the opportunity. It would be an opportunity, I thought, to come to know just a little bit more about the life behind one of those diamonds. What I didn't know was how difficult, emotionally, this responsibility would be. You see, my diamond was Mary Melendez.
August 22, 1957 - September11, 2001
Upon first seeing her picture, I smiled. How could you not? What a grand effect her smile must of had in person. I'd wager as effortless as a Spring breeze across a wheat field is how a smile came to Mary. A smile like that isn't put on from the outside, it shines tirelessly from within. That's what I thought when I first saw her picture.
As I began to cast about to learn more of Mary's story, I was fortunate and heartened to find a wealth of remembrances. Having read all I could find, there were other things I came to know as true about Mary. She gave and received love unconditionally. And she is deeply missed.
Mary's kindness and generosity clearly touched many, many lives. For play or for parties, for kids and adults, the Melendez' house was the place to be. Every neighborhood, it seems, has a house like that. A trusted second home. For Mary and her husband, Ramon, to have created and shared such a space is a testament to the quality of love they held within their own family.
The center of Mary's life was her family. While a successful professional in her own right, she made accommodations to her work schedule in the interest of spending more time with her family. A loving wife and proud mother to four boys, her life reflects the depth of her love, strength and undoubted ingenuity for keeping each of her sons on track.
The caliber of support for her sons is to be admired. When her son, Ricky, was leaving for Marine Corps boot camp in Parris Island, S.C., Mary saw to it a proper party was thrown to send him off to his next success. While he was away, Mary wrote to him every day, keeping him up to date about all the little things that together mean "home." She and Ramon had made plans to attend Ricky's graduation on September 15th.
As I researched and wrote this post, I kept wanting to write as if I were speaking directly to Mary. It seemed to be the only way I could adequately express some of my thoughts and feelings about what I had come to know about her and her family.
I can tell by your smile, joy and happiness simply shined from within you just by being who you were, an expression undaunted by events around you.
I know you did not belong on the front line of an unknown war and am saddened to know you were there.
America, the country, is forever indebted to you. America, the idea, will always remember you, for the very soul of Freedom and Liberty is composed of those such as yourself. To harm you was to harm all of us. To loose you as we did was to threaten the very soul of America and what it means to live in freedom.
I pray that you are at peace. I pray for your family that they may find peace.
I think all of America knows in the abstract the loss of life on September 11, 2001, was horrific. But there is a lot of room in the abstract in which all manner of horror can be packed away out of sight, much as you might isolate a monster on a deserted island. A much smaller percentage knows the loss first hand. The loss of a family member, a friend, a coworker or even an acquaintance. A direct connection, however brief or slight the touch, has tapped them into the full electricity of the loss.
I will not presume that my humble tribute to one of those lost on that fateful day has allowed me to experience the loss borne by so many others. But I can say the experience of researching and writing this post has allowed me to set foot on that abstract Monster Island, and even this slight and humble gesture has had a profound and lasting effect on how I frame news reports of all my fellow humans who have died similarly.
It has been my honor and privilege to write this post in tribute to Mary Melendez. For the rest of my days on this earth, memories of September 11, 2001, will forever be touched by thoughts of Mary Melendez, her family and a sadness knowing she perished on that day. But even this will thaw and melt away as I remember the image of Mary's smile, leaving the comfort of knowing that the world was made a better place for having been graced by such a being. It is by remembering the life she lived and the family she created that we can all find renewed hope for ourselves and our children.
May God bless Mary Melendez, her family and all her friends.
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Tributes to the other victims can be found on the "2,996: A Tribute to the Victims of 9/11" web site.