Java Zen:Thinking Out Loud Tuesday, 2021.01.26
Do not confuse "duty" with what other people expect of you; they are utterly
different. Duty is a debt you owe to yourself to fulfill obligations you have
assumed voluntarily. Paying that debt can entail anything from years of patient
work to instant willingness to die. Difficult it may be, but the reward is
self-respect.

But there is no reward at all for doing what other people expect of you, and to
do so is not merely difficult, but impossible. It is easier to deal with a
footpad than it is with the leech who wants "just a few minutes of your time,
please - this won't take long." Time is your total capital, and the minutes of
your life are painfully few. If you allow yourself to fall into the vice of
agreeing to such requests, they quickly snowball to the point where these
parasites will use up 100 percent of your time - and squawk for more!

So learn to say No - and be rude about it when necessary.

Otherwise you will not have time to carry out your duty, or to do your own work,
and certainly no time for love and happiness. The termites will nibble away your
life and leave none of it for you.

(This rule does not mean that you must not do a favor for a friend, or even for
a stranger. But let the choice be yours. Don't do it because it is "expected" of
you.)

		Robert Heinlein, "Time Enough For Love"

2008.06.29

Lily Of The Day


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